Is anyone happily married anymore...

It's been a while since the last posting...but since I am the only one who knows about this blog and reads it....i don't think that it matters all that much. But I digress.

I have been really reflecting on my future and the possibility that I could spend the rest of my life on this earth without a companion. I may never have children, and I may never know what it is like to fall in love. But would that all be so bad? I think it is no secret that Americans are getting divorced at an alarming rate, over 50% last I knew, but it bears the question :why are so many marriages unhappy? I mean think about it. How many times do you find yourselves in conversation with a married person where they either make fun of, talk bad about, or belittle their spouse? Over the last few weeks it has been an everyday occurrence for me. Comments that they wouldn't make would their spouse had been around, which actually make the comments WORSE! For example...today a person received a text message from their spouse that they were shopping at a jewelry store. When he mentioned it to us..the comment was made "you know your wife is your best friend." His reply: "She's my wife..I don't know about best friend."

Like really? Your spouse isn't your best friend? Isn't that a factor in relationships? Shouldn't you and your life partner be at least friends before you marry and then procreate? It really scares me. What if I find myself talking about my spouse like that...or worse, they refer to me that way? Is this what marriage is?

Oh, and that's another thing! So many people have told me "Don't ever get married." How is that helpful? What kind of advice is that? What kind of respect is that for the institute that you VOLUNTARILY entered into!? I just don't fully understand. There are groups of people who actually do love each other in this country that are not allowed to get married because it is not considered "normal." But here we are giving normal marriages the right to marry, and subsequently get divorced. Could I be the only that sees this as royally screwed up?

Even customers that come in to the bank make comments. "It's quiet..there must be no women here today." "I need to withdraw as little as possible for my wife...it's not her money anyway." "I hide my bonus money from her...she doesn't see a dime." "I need to transfer from our joint to just my account...I am the one working after all." And those are just a few examples.

I may never get married, and I may never have children, but if that means never having those phrases spoken of me, or vice versa...I think that might be an even trade off.


That is all.